Selfish

Selfish. Always viewed as a bad trait to have.

Question is,,

Is being selfish really unnecessary?

Honest speaking,
I don’t think so. Not entirely bad at least.
Certain things require you to be selfish.
If it involves your own life, sometimes you just need to.
You can’t always put everyone first then put your own self aside.
Who says their life matters more than your own?
So, you don’t really need to feel guilty if you are being selfish for your own good.
It doesn’t turn you into a bad guy.
To a certain extent it is still OK.
Just in certain things though.
Make sure you know where it starts and where it needs to end.

Remember. Everything has a limit.

But as long as it doesn’t really have any extreme affect for those around you, I say you’re good. No worries.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Relax!!

You think you’re confident enough. However when time comes and you have to face your audience, you’re shaking.

You think you’re brave enough to face any challenges. But when what you fear the most comes knocking, you start to hide away.

You think you’re patient enough to keep waiting. However when one by one people pass by, you start questioning why it took so long.

You think you’re happy enough with all of your achievements. But when you see others become more successful, you create another goal to achieve.

You think you’re intelligent enough to solve any problem. However when some issues arise for you to handle, you can’t find any solution to fix it.

You know what?you overthink!!
So what you say if you just stop for a second and just live in the moment. Go with the flow and have faith that life will turn out the way it is supposed to be. Not the way you want it to be.

Let life do their magic. Nothing can go wrong in the hand of fate.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

What It’s Takes

Somehow..

It take us losing someone
That makes us realize the importance of loving dearly.

It take us giving up
That makes us realize the importance of fighting back.

It take someone betrayal
That makes us realize the importance of loyalty.

It take us hurting badly
That makes us realize the importance of healing slowly.

And somehow
It take us to experiences all of that bad thing
That makes us start to appreciate the goods even more.

Just because it’s bad. Doesn’t mean it’s useless.
So, stop hating or regret every bad thing that ever happens to you.
Only because they exist, that you can see the beauty of good things.
So being thankful for everything even it was unpleasant to be though.
It’s a lesson. Not some unfairness to make your life miserable.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Self Conscious

Looking in the mirror,
Saw your own reflection,
And having a weird feeling about it.
It’s normal isn’t it? Or not? I think it is.
At a certain point in life, I guess everyone will always find something they dislike about themselves.
It didn’t help either when people around them kept throwing a dirty look. Judging their appearance and stuff.
That’s why someone once said ‘the hardest thing to do is loving yourself’. True indeed.
But here is a secret you need to know to make it easier ; You don’t need to feel self conscious about yourself. Especially not because of people. Wanna know why? Here I tell you. They also secretly struggle with themselves.
Some day they also hate how they look.
Other days they also try so hard to look good for others.
It’s totally normal. Feeling self conscious is normal. Because You’re NORMAL.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

For Once I Wish…

They always asking me
“Are you okay”
I wish for once they ask ‘what’s wrong’ instead.

They keep saying
“You can do it”
For once I wish they would say they will help instead.

They always telling me
“Never give up”
I wish for once they told me to take a rest instead.

They keep wondering
“What wrong with her”
For once I wish they were wondering ‘why is she acting like that’ instead.

For once. Just for once. Can you not? Interpret things just the way you see fit, I mean. It is nice sometimes to look beneath the surface and see what else you can find. Someone might desperately need that from you.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Does it?

Sometimes we hate ourselves for who we are. For who we became. Or for who we cannot be.
So what that said about us as a person for feeling that way?
Does that make us pathetic?
Or does that make us worthless?

No it doesn’t.

Feeling something negative or feeling anything at all. really. doesn’t make us anything. Feeling is just that. Only a feeling. It doesn’t define who we really are.
In fact sometimes it does make us better.
It teaches us how to love ourselves.
How to accept the fact that not everything is beyond our control.
Basically it makes us human.
So don’t beat yourself too hard.
You just being you. And that is not a weakness. In fact it’s a strength, because believe it or not there is only one you in this world.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Freedom of Speech

You share your opinion.
You ask about your curiosity.
You voice your thoughts.
And…

People disagree with your opinion.
People question your curiosity.
People object to your thoughts.
So…

You used “freedom of speech” as an excuse to justify yourself.
Unfortunately…

You forgot to realize that true freedom of speech is everyone’s right. But it doesn’t mean that your side of speech is always right.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

No it’s not OK

You know how when we do something but we fail and someone will tell us ‘it doesn’t matter, you can try again tomorrow’ right?
In that situation, it is supposed to motivate us to never give up.
But do you think that mindset doesn’t have any negative impacts at all?
If you think so, you are totally mistaken.
Here I tell you what. For certain people, those words are up to no good. Do you know why? Because they might take it as an excuse to slack off. To not do the best they could. They will think ‘Oh, it’s okay. I can still do my best tomorrow’.
You get what I mean right?
True, tomorrow will always come whether you like it or not. But do you know for sure that you are still here to welcome it?

So here is some advice. If you want to do something, do the best you can. That might be the only chance you have.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Take Your Time

All of us have a dream right?
In order to achieve this dream, some of us work their butt off like there is no tomorrow.
Some don’t even care to spare 5 minutes of their time to have a meal.
Others, keep rushing to finish their work that they completely forgot to sleep.
In a way, it’s good to be passionate towards your goals.
But I keep wondering what the point of working too hard and getting sick later on? Is it worth it?
Even when you succeed in achieving what you aim for, do you really think you can enjoy your victory while being unhealthy? Probably not.
So please please please! Take care of yourself.
Life is all about balance. Working hard? That’s great. But don’t do that while ignoring yourself. Stay safe.
There is more unexpected joy waiting for you to embrace.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra

Moving Forward

They ask how to move on,
He says doing this. She says doing that.
What do I have to say?
Forgive yourself.
Wanna know the reason as to why you are stuck in the past?
No. Not because of ‘it hurting too much’ bullsh*t.
And definitely not because of ‘ I’m too weak to face all of this right now’ nonsense either.
Neither is the ‘ healing take time’ concept that everyone seems to believe.
You are.
The reason you seem so oblivious is you. Yourself.
Unknowingly, you are blaming yourself right?
Wondering what you did wrong to subject yourself to such a heartbreak.
Or maybe even thinking that your imperfections are the cause of all the disasters that happen to you in your life.
Guess what honey? You are completely wrong!! They ain’t.
Life happens. It’s completely out of anyone’s control. Change your plan as you might, if the universe has another plan set for you, even if you don’t like that plan, it’s still gonna happen.
So how about start forgiving yourself. Forgive your imperfections. Forgive yourself for not being able to be who you dream yourself to be. Forgive yourself for not being able to achieve everyone’s expectations of you.
Let go of all the self blaming. Let go of all the self doubt. Just let go. Whatever that is holding you up from moving forward, let it go. And you might be surprised how good that makes you feel.

Sincerely me,
Az.Ra